Tuesday, May 5, 2026

It’s all about the relationship , trust and adding value !!! Lesson 1 - Listen with a view to understand vs listen with a view to respond

Jen Gaudet - has written a post that has hit me square on the eyes!!


- It’s all about the relationship , trust and adding value !!! 


Which is what #referron and referring and giving warm introductions is about . There is seldom something better that you can offer a person - than a warm introduction to a relevant person in your network that you know like and trust 


Sometimes I get so enthused about #referron - and who I can refer them to - and the value I can add to someone ….. it seems as if I’m trying to sell the product and its uses - vs stopping and listening to what the other party actually wants and what they are trying to say!!!


It’s so Importment to listen 👂 first with a view to understand vs to just launch into your pitch or what you are trying to sell .


It’s a big lesson that I as a person need to remind myself every day 


It’s the L in leadership 

Listen 

And listen and silent have the same letters !!


Here is the link to the article


It’s all about the relationship , trust and adding value !!! Lesson 1 - Listen with a view to understand vs listen with a view to respond 

Step 1 in Building a relationship - listen with a view to understand

This is such a brilliant post by Jen Gaudet!

PSA: potential trigger warning: If the first message I get from you in 3 years is an ask… we’ve got a problem.


Yes I’m saying it out loud. In social media (but I know many of you are thinking it)


This happens more than people think.


Out of nowhere:


“Hey! Can you share this with your audience?”

“Can you make an intro?”

“Can you invest?”


And I’m sitting here thinking…

we haven’t talked since before half the world changed.


Let me be clear: I like helping people.

I’m wired that way.


But there’s a difference between:


* a relationship

   and

* a random reach-out with a request attached


If I don’t know:


* what you’re doing now

* how you operate

* what you actually need

* whether it aligns with me


I’m not putting my name, network, or brand behind it.


That’s not personal. That’s responsible.


And the “we met once at a conference” angle?


That’s not a relationship. That’s a moment.


Even worse: you saw me on stage or television and we haven’t even met…


If you want support, referrals, introductions… great.


Start here:


* Say hi

* Reconnect

* Add value

* Build the relationship again


Then make the ask.


Because showing up cold and going straight for a favor?


It doesn’t land the way you think it does.


Honest question:


Do you like getting messages that jump straight to the ask…

or does it turn you off immediately?


Sunday, May 3, 2026

Why Referron Supported Life Could Be A Dream— And Why More Business Communities Need To Pay Attention

I was privileged to represent Referron at the premier of Life Could Be A Dream this week — a powerful film shining a light on family violence and coercive control.


I am also so proud of my daughter, Heidi Kaye, (who designed the Referron logo (13 years ago )) who played a small part in the making of the film as an associate producer .


What makes this film so important is that it challenges one of society’s biggest misconceptions:

Family violence and coercive control do not only exist in disadvantaged environments.

They can exist behind beautiful homes, successful careers, influential networks, and privileged lifestyles.

From the outside, everything can appear “perfect.”

But behind closed doors, manipulation, fear, isolation, emotional control, financial dependency, and psychological abuse can quietly destroy lives.

That is why this film matters.

And that is why conversations like this matter.

As a platform built around connection, relationships, referrals, and community, Referron believes human connection should never just be transactional.

Technology should not only help people grow business networks —

it should help strengthen human networks.

Because community is not measured by how many people you know.

It is measured by whether people feel safe, supported, seen, and heard.

Too often, coercive control survives because people feel isolated.

They feel nobody will believe them.

Or worse — they feel trapped maintaining appearances.

Films like Life Could Be A Dream help break that silence.

They create awareness.

They create empathy.

And most importantly, they create conversations people may otherwise never have.

At Referron, we often talk about the power of warm introductions and trusted relationships.

But trust also comes with responsibility.

Real communities look out for each other.

Real leaders create environments where people feel included, respected, and safe to speak.

And real networks are not only built to exchange opportunities —

they are built to support people through life itself.

Supporting projects like Life Could Be A Dream aligns deeply with what Referron stands for:



  • Connection
  • Collaboration
  • Contribution
  • Continuity
  • Community

The 5Cs are not just business principles.

They are human principles.

Congratulations to the filmmakers, producers, cast, crew, and everyone involved in bringing this important story to life.

This is more than a movie.

It is a conversation society needs to keep having.

And in our view — it is a must-watch for business leaders, families, educators, communities, and anyone who believes relationships should be built on respect, not control.

Congratulation to

Executive Producer - Jasmine Tarasin

Script Writer - Courtney Collins

Exec Director of Minderoo Pictures - Malinda Wink

and the amazingly talented actors

Maeve Dermody , Noam Sem Gupta Alex England and Sonny McGee